Signs that Summer Has Begun:
1. Memorial Day has passed
2. Swimming pools open
3. White pants come out of the closet
4. School years are ending or winding down
5. Invites to cookouts and weddings are filling up the calendar
The goodbye to spring, and hello to summer happens often suddenly, with not a lot of warning.
Signs You May Be Mourning a Change You Don’t Even Realize:
1. You finished 12th grade and will be leaving home to attend college
2. You just returned home to live with your parents
3. You are kissing your bachelor/bachelorette days goodbye in the coming weeks
4. You are transitioning to full-time childcare (grandkids) duty
5. You suddenly find yourself caring for an aging parent
As the calendar just flipped to June, I wonder what changes are you going through? What season of life are you entering?
While summer is a time to kick back and relax, the beginnings of summer may be an excellent time for reflection on what just ended, and what may lie ahead.
Signs Counseling May Be Useful as You Enter this New Season:
1. You’ve tried to just follow the sun in the past and it led you astray
2. You’d like to be more intentional as you close a chapter of life
3. You want to process the old/new chapter with a professional
4. You don’t want to repeat certain mistakes
5. You are filled with fear about what may be on the horizon
I grew up in a time, when it was totally fine to be a “latch key” kid for several hours a day. Growing up as the oldest of two of immigrant self employed parents, there were times when I did not see my parents a lot. I grew up with a lot of autonomy, independence, and responsibilities. I probably could have used some parental guidance too, especially as a teen.
Thankfully, there were no probation officers involved, trips to the ER, or regretful experimenting. What I did notice was that I spent a lot of time on the phone, just talking. Talking to friends that I had just seen at school, and friends who I no longer saw in class. As I began driving, I got to enjoy spending time at my friends’ houses. Often I would enjoy interacting with the parents, parents who spoke English, parents who went to college, parents who I thought were sooo coool. At the same time I also began to look up the youth leaders at my church, often college kids who I also thought were really cool. There were also favorite teachers, and other adult figures (parental figures) that had an influence on my upbringing.
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Over the years there are common questions that I get asked prior to setting up our 1st appointment, or questions that come up during the future sessions. Some questions relate to logistics, others could be more personal. Typically with younger clients they like to ask me personal questions.
A guiding principle that I try to abide by is to not disclose personal information about myself with a client, especially if it’s not relevant to the focus of our time together.