It’s amazing how the brain organizes and processes information. Like with the word “Snuggie:” there are probably thoughts, feelings, images, colors, etc. that instantly flooded your mind when you read that. Similarly, many people have certain ideas of what therapy, counseling, or psychotherapy would be like. Most of these ideas come from TV or movies, or information that we’ve gathered throughout our lives. I wanted to share what working with me as your therapist/counselor would be and not be like.
P90X a home fitness DVD program designed to work your body to exhaustion via “muscle confusion,” to build strength, lose weight, and get fit. If you’re a believer and user of P90X, I’m happy for you, but therapy does not work like this. I create, provide, and maintain a safe and confidential physical space where you can express and explore feelings, thoughts, success, fears, etc. There is no equivalent of “muscle confusion” or working out to the brink of muscle spasms and fatigue. Not only would this be grossly irresponsible and disrespectful, it would also cause harm and pain, which are never the goals of therapy.
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Dr. Frasier Crane, a neurotic psychologist played by Kelsey Grammer on the hit series Frasier answered callers on his radio show with, “This is Dr. Fraiser Crane . . . I’m listening.”
Of all the ways we communicate today, the internet has changed us the most, for better or for worse. In communicating online, we draw attention to ourselves, we engage others, but does any of this necessarily foster — as Dr. Crane might have called it– attentive listening? Even in the midst of private chat or IM, what is the other person on the other end doing? How many other chat windows does that person have open? How many times have you felt that the other person on the other end of the phone was preoccupied with driving, running an errand, checking email etc., which is the very point of this recent article from Slate.
The article goes on to make the case that companies have succeeded in reaching out to customers via social media, but “companies need to learn how to give customers the attention that they crave, rather than demanding customers’ attention and then charging them extra for the attention that their brand commands.” So what does this to have with you or me? At the most basic level, as a therapist, “I’m listening.” Read the rest of this entry »
Therapy is a place where one can learn to explore, express, and verbalize feelings and emotions in a safe and confidential setting, while working to effect positive change in the present, and hope for lasting change in the future.
I am a clinical social worker with 10 years of professional experience. It would be my pleasure to work with you or your family member to find solutions to life’s barriers and challenges.
Curious to know if therapy can be helpful? Feel free to contact me.