Love “Me” or Love “Me” Not?


“I want someone to love” or “I want someone to love me”…On the eve of Valentine’s Day, these declarations emerge along with aisles of heart-shaped boxes of assorted chocolates. How does one find love? Where does one find love? Is it internet dating sites? Being set up by friends/family.


In looking for love, I think we have to start with our selves: Do we love our selves? Do we treat our selves with care and respect? In other words, do we have a good relationship with our selves?

In a relationship being mindful of the needs of someone else and your self is not easy. You may find yourself giving more in a relationship, or you may find yourself taking more in a relationship. This inequality could eventually lead to problems where you’re neglecting yourself or the other person. So what’s love of self got to do with any of this?

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Reflecting and Planning


We are clearly in the holiday season(only 20 days ’til Christmas), and while the holiday season can be stressful with reflections of things that didn’t work out over the year, forced interactions with family members that we’ve avoided all year,or the bombardment of needing to spend money that we may or may not have. The holidays are often a time when those who are no longer with us are also remembered and missed. Sometimes these feelings are expected, other times they sneak right up on us. Despite the hustle and bustle of the holidays, often times this is the time when most people need to take extra time for self-care and reflection.

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