A Year of Love


For many, today starts the return to normal, the 1st full week of 2013, the first Monday of January (got a case of the Mondays?). Six days into the new year, and new goals may still be riding the bench, waiting for action. Other goals of flossing daily, responding to emails immediately, or others my be on the way to becoming new habits and routines for the new year.

As for me…


Growing up in a household where emotions were not verbally expressed frequently, I now find myself on the other end where I help people express and verbalize their own feelings (but that’s a different post). I always wondered how I would be as a father, whether I would nurture and relate to my own as my parents had, or whether I would be different. Something that I realized before the 2012 closed was that I would hear and watch others so easily verbalize love for their children, both dads and moms, and got to thinking why that was so difficult for me.


While not one for grand resolutions or new year’s goals, I decided to that 2013 would be the year that I say “love” more frequently, not in a way to degrade or cheapen the feeling, but to put “love” out there first, rather than be an unspoken understanding or a feeling that does not get communicated enough. I’m curious to see how this will personally change my interactions and relationships with others.


How about you, what will you work on this year? What about love?  The world can use a little bit more love, no?

What’s Your Default Setting?


When it comes to the finance, default or the act of defaulting is not something you get a gold star for. Even beyond finance the definition is one that has negative connotations, words such as lack, need, absence, fail, etc. Interestingly, many of our tech toys/gadgets all come with “default settings,” not “standard settings.”


I like to know the in’s and out’s of things, and I’m curious to know what the default setting to my GPS device is, the mouse to my computer, or even controls to a video game. More often than not, I end up changing something for my own preference for things, for aesthetic reasons, or my need to simply tweak something.

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Reflecting and Planning


We are clearly in the holiday season(only 20 days ’til Christmas), and while the holiday season can be stressful with reflections of things that didn’t work out over the year, forced interactions with family members that we’ve avoided all year,or the bombardment of needing to spend money that we may or may not have. The holidays are often a time when those who are no longer with us are also remembered and missed. Sometimes these feelings are expected, other times they sneak right up on us. Despite the hustle and bustle of the holidays, often times this is the time when most people need to take extra time for self-care and reflection.

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