“I want someone to love” or “I want someone to love me”…On the eve of Valentine’s Day, these declarations emerge along with aisles of heart-shaped boxes of assorted chocolates. How does one find love? Where does one find love? Is it internet dating sites? Being set up by friends/family.
In looking for love, I think we have to start with our selves: Do we love our selves? Do we treat our selves with care and respect? In other words, do we have a good relationship with our selves?
In a relationship being mindful of the needs of someone else and your self is not easy. You may find yourself giving more in a relationship, or you may find yourself taking more in a relationship. This inequality could eventually lead to problems where you’re neglecting yourself or the other person. So what’s love of self got to do with any of this?