As I recently told a social work class, one of the unique perspective of social workers, is understanding a client and the environment around them. This is certainly something that I practice daily, and has informed me in the various clients that I have/had work with. Whether it was a child from a single parent home living in public housing, or an adult with chronic mental illness who’s longing for connection.
An issue that is commonly known, but is complex is low socio-economic status or poverty. Poverty is more than just one’s annual total income, or whether one has a job, and its affects all aspects of daily life that can become emotionally, mentally, and/or physically traumatic- trauma that can affect one’s DNA and future generations.
So here’s what I listened to a couple of weeks ago:
There was a time in your schooling that, your aim was to get an A on the quiz, test, class, semester, etc. For some of us, we realized that we could be happy with B’s, or realized that C’s were good enough. There are idealized versions of parenting in the media, that we often wish (or our kids wish) we could emulate, whether it’s trying to live up to the Clair Huxtable, Marge Simpson, Lorelai Gilmore, Carol Brady, or simply trying to be a better parent than your own. The pressures of parenting, and the need to strive for an A in it has never been greater.
There is no shortage of parenting books that offer many tips, ideas, and guidelines to improve your relationship with your child, help them excel at school, promote a more peaceful dinner experience, or to be an A+ parent. These books and its content are awesome, but here’s what I believe to be the most fundamental things parents and families should strive for, and all you have to do is shoot for C’s. Read the rest of this entry »
For many, today starts the return to normal, the 1st full week of 2013, the first Monday of January (got a case of the Mondays?). Six days into the new year, and new goals may still be riding the bench, waiting for action. Other goals of flossing daily, responding to emails immediately, or others my be on the way to becoming new habits and routines for the new year.
As for me…
Growing up in a household where emotions were not verbally expressed frequently, I now find myself on the other end where I help people express and verbalize their own feelings (but that’s a different post). I always wondered how I would be as a father, whether I would nurture and relate to my own as my parents had, or whether I would be different. Something that I realized before the 2012 closed was that I would hear and watch others so easily verbalize love for their children, both dads and moms, and got to thinking why that was so difficult for me.
While not one for grand resolutions or new year’s goals, I decided to that 2013 would be the year that I say “love”more frequently, not in a way to degrade or cheapen the feeling, but to put “love” out there first, rather than be an unspoken understanding or a feeling that does not get communicated enough. I’m curious to see how this will personally change my interactions and relationships with others.
How about you, what will you work on this year? What about love? The world can use a little bit more love, no?