Stop Trying to get A’s for Parenting.

02.04.2016

There was a time in your schooling that, your aim was to get an A on the quiz, test, class, semester, etc. For some of us, we realized that we could be happy with B’s, or realized that C’s were good enough. There are idealized versions of parenting in the media, that we often wish (or our kids wish) we could emulate, whether it’s trying to live up to the Clair Huxtable, Marge Simpson, Lorelai Gilmore, Carol Brady, or simply trying to be a better parent than your own. The pressures of parenting, and the need to strive for an A in it has never been greater.

 

There is no shortage of parenting books that offer many tips, ideas, and guidelines to improve your relationship with your child, help them excel at school, promote a more peaceful dinner experience, or to be an A+ parent. These books and its content are awesome, but here’s what I believe to be the most fundamental things parents and families should strive for, and all you have to do is shoot for C’s. Read the rest of this entry »

What Boyhood Gets Right about Divorce

01.28.2015

The holidays are long and gone, and hopefully many are still sticking to their New Year’s resolution. For others, now is the time that they are thinking/planning a divorce. For many couples, their marriage has been deteriorating for some time, but many choose to get through one last holidays for their kids or family, to avoid the awkwardness  around their extended family members, for tax implications, or due to other financial reasons at the end of the year. Depending on your source, many claim that January is when most divorces are filed, but it’s safe to assume from January to March there is a surge in divorce cases.

 

 

For those who are not familiar with the movie, Boyhood– the film follows the life of a boy over 12 years, which was also subsequently filmed over 12 years. Other than watching the characters ager over a decade, it is also a movie about divorce and single parenting. Here are some family dynamics that are common in divorce: Read the rest of this entry »

On the Cusp. . .

11.07.2014

. . .of the holiday season. Now that Halloween has come and gone, including this weekend we are 7 weekends away from Christmas/Holiday season.

 

The holidays are a wonderful time, a season of thanks, and good cheer. It is also a festive time to get together with friends, office holiday parties, holiday banquets/fundraisers, and concerts. There’s festive light shows, plays/concerts/ballets to attend, pictures to take, cards to create, gift lists, baking, decorating, planning, traveling, etc.

 

The holiday season seems to start sooner every year, and various personal and family events to attend only grow with young children.

 

So while we’re still 7 weeks away, I hope that there can be an intentional time to relax, take in the fall season, spend time with your immediate family without the pressures of everyone else around, and just savor a free weekend before it gets crammed with various commitments.

 

*photo credit: cosmic fitness