The season of Thanksgiving is upon on, and generally people like to take this time to reflect on things that they are grateful for, the blessings of the last year, or simply giving back to those who may have less.
In the midst of reflection, obviously there are negative experiences from the past year(s). The holidays have a way of bringing up those tucked away feelings and experiences, whether it’s the fear of seeing a family member you have history with, the reminder that this past year was not all that different from where you were the year before, the reminder that a loved one is missing, or perhaps general disappointment that you are harboring feelings from the past.
Here are some quick ideas that may be of help.
As things from the past come up, I encourage you to find a time and space to truly reflect on the experiences and feelings of the past event. Reflect on how you remember things unfolding, the intricate details of the setting, colors, scents, etc., and most importantly, when did this occur– how long ago, what year, or how old were you?
Sometimes the act of writing is a away to make our reflections coherent.
Everyone has a story, a unique perspective of how something unfolded, and their own unique experiences of what happened. This story, your story, is simply one story, but it doesn’t have to be “the story.” There are many “truths,” and stories, and often the narrative that we created at that moment, may have been “accurate” or “helpful” for that unique time in your life.
Like all creative works, there is often a process of reflection and editing (rewriting). We all possess the power to change a narrative, or change our story. The changes of a single year, the growth and maturity of many years, the reality of reflecting on the past from a place a distance offers the possibility of “seeing” the past with a different lens or angle.
Can the understanding of an event from childhood really be helpful today, or does that event deserve a “rewrite” or “reboot,” that is more fresh and relevant to today?
You’ve reflected and rewritten, now what? With your rewrite, you now have a story that is helpful, accurate, and empowering that allows you to “return” to the now. A return back to “today,” while looking ahead to tomorrow.
Do you believe how your new “story,” your new “truth” will shape your interactions and perspectives today?