John Lee, MSW, LICSW

individual and family therapist, specializing in improving the emotional well being of children and adolescents

Home Stretch

I was once a swimmer who had a coach that thought I would be a great person to swim the 200 butterfly- at every single meet. The 200 fly is not easy- long enough where you can not sprint, but short enough where it’s not a true distance event where you just hold a consistent pace. The strategy was to chop up the event into 3 sections: 50-100-50. Take the first 50 fairly easy, build up your pace during the 100, and pour out whatever you got left to bring it back home for the final 50.

For many students, they are in the 4th quarter, 3rd trimester, or the back half of the 2nd semester. This can also be a stressful time for students and parents, as the pressures to succeed, or simply pass. It can feel like a mad sprint to the end of the year, while others are still trying to get out of cruise control. Here are some tips to make the end of the year as successful as possible. (more…)

Stop Trying to get A’s for Parenting.

There was a time in your schooling that, your aim was to get an A on the quiz, test, class, semester, etc. For some of us, we realized that we could be happy with B’s, or realized that C’s were good enough. There are idealized versions of parenting in the media, that we often wish (or our kids wish) we could emulate, whether it’s trying to live up to the Clair Huxtable, Marge Simpson, Lorelai Gilmore, Carol Brady, or simply trying to be a better parent than your own. The pressures of parenting, and the need to strive for an A in it has never been greater.

 

There is no shortage of parenting books that offer many tips, ideas, and guidelines to improve your relationship with your child, help them excel at school, promote a more peaceful dinner experience, or to be an A+ parent. These books and its content are awesome, but here’s what I believe to be the most fundamental things parents and families should strive for, and all you have to do is shoot for C’s. (more…)