I read a brief summary of a study involving one’s parenting style and whether it’s related to the amount of video gaming their child may participate in. This study is difficult to understand in that it’s basically saying if a parents has a nagging parenting style, but does not “monitor” their child, the more time the child is likely to play video games.
In my work with children and teenagers, I have yet to meet someone who likes to be nagged. On the flip side, I have had many parents share that they do not like having to nag or constantly remind/redirect their child from something. I’ve also worked with many young people who like to play video games. I have found that most parents realize that video games are part of the culture of young people, and that they can not totally restrict or forbid gaming. On the contrary, I think most parents would rather have their children engaged in other activities other than video gaming, or at least have a variety of activities a child would engaged in.
Parents and children can avoid nagging, and negative perceptions of one another, if there are clear set of boundaries and limits regarding the amount of time one is going to spend playing video games, on the computer, txt-ing, etc., as well as clear expectations or schedule regarding what will/should be happening next. For instance, if a child knows ahead of time that they can only play video games for 30 mins, then there’s less likely for disagreements, instead of parents asking the child to do their homework at some arbitrary time.
Is it possible that children’s parents who monitor less, play more video games? It’s definitely possible a child may feel or report, that their parents do not monitor them due to clear expectations and boundaries of when and how much a child can play, which gives the impression that the child is playing as much as they want, or agreed upon.
What kind of relationship would you like to have with your child? A relationship full of nagging and negative interactions or a positive relationship that is mutually respectful and positive?
What is stopping you from having positive interactions at home? What would it take for you to seek change? It would be my pleasure to work on strengthening relationships in your family today.
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